Do you have friends that after you spend time with them you feel more angry, irritable, or upset than you did before hanging out with them? Do they make you compete with them or do you feel like they are constantly judging you? They, my friends, are toxic, and you need to get them out of your life.

You agree with me, yes? But the problem is that you don’t know what to do about it.

Here’s my advice: You need to dump them, and I’ve got the solution along with a recipe right here. Make my Cherry Coconut Dump cake and come up with exactly how to get rid of these toxic friendships.

 

Recipe: Cherry Coconut Dump Cake

 

Ingredients:
One 21-ounce can cherry pie filling
One 15-ounce can crushed pineapple with liquid
1 box white cake mix (18 ounces)
1 1/2 sticks (12 tablespoons) butter

1 tablespoon shredded coconut to sprinkle on top
Whipped cream, for serving

Directions:

 
1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.

 

2.  Dump the cherry pie filling and crushed pineapple into a 9-by-13-inch baking dish. Stir together. During This Step: Decide who your toxic friends are that you need to dump. Real friends wouldn’t treat you the way that they treated you. They will understand that they crossed a line and will be sure to never cross it again. The person in your life, isn’t a good friend. They are toxic and they won’t get it, time to dump them.

 

3. Sprinkle the cake mix over the top of the fruit. Slice the butter into tablespoons and distribute evenly over the surface of the cake mix. During This Step: Come up with reasons why. Write down all of your reasons so that you can fully understand why these friends need to be dumped. Don’t feel guilty, especially once you remember your list of reasons why, what you are doing is fully justified. When it comes to them remember, you do not need to Do not debate. Do not reason. You don’t need to. They will try to make you second guess yourself. They will try to minimize what they’re doing or make it your problem. What you’re doing is simple: you’re telling them firmly that you are not going to let them walk all over you any more. You are creating a boundary.

 

4. Bake until the tops are brown and bubbly, 45 minutes to 1 hour. Serve with whipped cream. Decide when you are ready that you can in fact break up with them. And during this step you will come with exactly what you will say to them. Remember to be firm, direct, and honest. But never harsh or rude. You are just telling them how you feel honestly, and giving them a few of your reasons from step 2. Tell them that you cannot be friends with them anymore and they just stop talking to them. Take a break from them in order to heal yourself and to find true friends that you have out there. Accept that it might be a process.But overall you’ll be better for it.

 

 

–Allison