The 3 biggest things couples fight about about are:
3. Poor Communication
Obviously, these are big issues. And believe it or not, football season can actually bring these out in the most unpleasant way. This may seem silly, but not when you think about the root of the fighting. Fighting this time of year is not really about football. What you are really fighting about is time, money, and poor communication.
Let me explain what I mean. On the weekends perhaps you feel excluded. Your partner is spending more time watching the game than being with you. Or you may not agree with the frivolous expenses such as tailgating or gambling on Fantasy Football leagues. Does your spouse only talk about football? I bet you are tired of the only conversations in your home revolving around the big game.
This time of year I work with many couples in my cooking therapy practice who are constantly fighting and disagreeing. Through therapy, I show them how to use this time of year as an opportunity to reconnect.
Whatever “football” element you fight about, A Taste of Therapy is here to offer the Recipe for Relationship Success! My recipe includes a therapeutic discussion and a cooking element. To get success you must do BOTH!
Here is my Recipe for Relationship Success:
1. First, decide if you are fighting about time, money, or poor communication.
Are you fighting about time? Try this: Instead of kicking your husband out to watch the game down the street the local bar because you ‘don’t care about football’, invite him to stay in your home. Watch the game together. Make my yummy Pigs In Blankets appetizer to share together (recipe below) and make a date out of it.
Are you fighting about money? Try this: If your wife spending too much money on football items, sit down and talk about it. Make a “football budget.” Compromise on how much you will spend before the season starts, so there will be no surprises along the way.
Are you fighting about poor communication? Try this: If football completely dominates all of your conversations there is a way to manage this. Sit down and tell your spouse how you feel. By expressing your concerns in an open and calm way, you can let them know how it makes you feel. Be sure to tell them that while you share in their excitement and are happy to talk about football, perhaps it can be on a more limited basis. Agree to talk about all topics equally. Make a pact to only talk about football during dinner.
2. Follow that suggestion.
3. Make my Pigs In Blankets together. While making this dish: do it together. I want you to laugh, make a mess, talk, flirt, and help each other out while cooking. Be a team! Then cozy up together on the sofa to watch the game together. Make football YOUR thing, not just THEIR thing. (As a side note, these babies are so good. They are the homemade version of the snack you love. One taste and you’ll want to roll up with your sweetie and devour this yummy comfort food.)
4.Repeat these steps every week for the duration of football season.
What to expect?
You’ll be amazed at the changes you will see in your relationship. You will be a stronger couple; you will communicate better, and save money. Through these small changes I believe you will have the recipe for a stronger relationship!
Photos of The Pigs
Be sure to comment below on how this works for you and your football fanatic! I can’t wait to hear from you!
- 2 cups all-purpose flour
- 1 tablespoon sugar
- 2 teaspoons baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
- 1/2 teaspoon salt
- 4 tablespoons unsalted butter, cold, cut into small pieces
- 1/2 cup grated sharp cheddar cheese
- 1 cup buttermilk
- 1 package hot dogs, cut in half to equal 14 pigs
- 1 egg white for egg wash
- 1 teaspoon water for egg wash
- Extra flour needed for kneading
- Heat oven to 400 degrees and prepare a foil lined baking sheet.
- Combine dry ingredients in a large mixing bowl
- Using a fork mix the butter chunks into your dry ingredients
- Now, add the cheese until evenly distributed.
- Add the buttermilk to your mixing bowl. Stir well. Let the dough sit for 3 minutes. (If you have the time, allow the dough to sit longer. Take this moment to share a special or funny memory of your relationship with each other.)
- Remove from bowl and begin kneading for about 5 minutes. Sprinkle the dough with flour and turn out onto a well floured cutting board. When turning dough, you must be gentle and be sure not to overwork it. Treat this dough like you would like to be treated!
- Once you are done kneading, pat the dough into a large rectangle.
- Using a serrated knife or pizza cutter, slice the rectangle into thirds horizontally then slice each third into thirds vertically, this will give you 9 rectangles. If it’s not perfect, don’t worry about it.
- Pick up each rectangle. Pat it out into a pancake, so it can be rolled easily. You may need to add flour to your hands at this stage to be able to handle the dough. It will be very sticky.
- Then roll up the pigs into their blankets. Place baking sheet. Brush tops with an egg wash to make them golden brown.
- Bake for 12 to 13 minutes, until golden brown. Cool
- Serve with ketchup or mustard. Cozy up together on the couch and watch the game together!
Pigs in Blankets
Recipe adapted from: http://www.food.com/recipe/pigs-in-a-blanket-from-scratch-158206