Blueberry Pecan Baked Brie with Waffle Dippers: 

Watch me make this recipe here!

This easy recipe made with brie, fresh blueberries, crushed pecans, and honey is a sweet and savory
breakfast that is quick to make. Got a grudge you can’t let go of? This recipe will show you the steps you
need to take to finally get over it once and for all. When you hold on to grudges it does more than
bother you. It is a relationship killer. It causes resentment, passive aggressive communication, and
contempt between the two of you. Grudges are very painful to hold on to and need to be let you. For
your sake and the sake of your relationship. Grudges come with an identity. With our grudge intact, we know who we are—a person who was “wronged.”  As much as we don’t like it, there also exists a kind of rightness and strength in this identity. We have something that defines us—our anger and victimhood—which gives us a sense of solidness and purpose. We have definition and a grievance that carries weight. To let go of our grudge, you have to be willing to let go of your identity as the “wronged” one. That means you also have to let go of any solidity or possible sympathy and understanding you receive through that “wronged” identity.

IMG_2039Let it go. You have to drop the “I” who was mistreated.

Gather your Ingredients 

A Large Brie round 

1 pint Blueberries

Fresh Local Honey 

1 bag of crushed pecans 

Frozen Waffles- cut into strips 

Apples- Use a variety of apples, gala, granny smith, whatever you have on hand! 

Pears-sliced into slices 


While making this dish I want each of you to discuss the following points while doing each step of the recipe. Both need to be wearing an article of clothing that you don’t mind taking off and letting your partner put on. This recipe works best when you are both working on grudges you have toward EACH OTHER.

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees (Both acknowledge what grudge you are BOTH letting go)

2. Place brie round on parchment lined baking sheet. (Share your feelings around the

grudge. Fully confront the grudge. Put it in the room. Without being judgmental about

yourself or another, clarify your feelings on the situation. Challenge your feelings around

it. Ask yourself, is this logical? Does it make sense? Am I ready to let it go? Do all of

these prior to moving on with the recipe.

3. Thinly cut top off of brie round. Cover top of brie round with fresh blueberries. Drizzle

with honey and chopped pecans. (Switch places. Physically put on something that your

partner has on. An article of clothing or their shoes. And also you need to switch places

in the kitchen. Do this while you do this step of the recipe. Once you have “switched

places” each person will re-state the grudge from their partner’s point of view and state

to one another why they feel that their partner cannot let the grudge go. NO

JUDGEMENT HERE. Doing this will give you each a better understanding of their point of

view and behavior. Perhaps your partner was in a lot of pain. This doesn’t justify their

negativity, but it will help you understand it. The more you understand the other person

and their behavior, the easier it is to let go of that grudge. Say, I cannot let go of this

grudge because I feel ____

4. Bake at 350 degrees for 6 to 10 minutes until melty and gooey. (Accept what is. How?

Choose to create your own healing, with or without an apology. Decide what you will do

in this moment to heal from this grudge. Will you apologize? Will you write a letter and

burn it? What will you physically do to accept what is? Mantras work here also so do a

moment of ceremony)

5. Slice up waffles, apples and pears into strips. Serve warm with waffles strips, apples,

and sliced pears (Forgive YOURSELF for carrying that weight and badge of dis-honor for

so long. Forgive that sense of identity you carried and allow yourself to move past it. To

let go of a grudge you need to move the focus off of the one who “wronged” you and

past that story of suffering. Now that you’ve moved your attention inside, you have no

need for that grudge. And the pain of it magically, goes away.)