Trust is THE most important ingredient in your relationship. When it comes to trust you must work at keeping it strong every day. This keeps (what I call) your trust bucket full. A full trust bucket makes it easier to trust your partner. Even when you go through periods when you don’t feel as connected to one another which can decrease trust. You can recover because of that full bucket. Believe it or not, most couples go through periods like this. This is normal. But what you must do however is work towards fixing that and feeling reconnected before it gets worse.
Ok, so let’s say there has been an affair or huge deceit, your trust bucket is now completely empty. You can recover if you want to. But again, you must work at refilling that bucket. You can’t just assume that trust will come back on its own. By cooking together you can start refilling your trust bucket together. By trusting in each other you can get it back. Start with making this recipe.
Here’s what you will need:
•4 servings of cooked egg noodles (approx. 1 pound)
•3 Tbsp. of hoisin sauce
•1/4 cup of chicken broth
•2 Tbsp. of soy sauce
•2 tsp of sesame oil
•1 tsp of cornstarch
•1 Tbsp. of vegetable oil
•1 Tbsp. of ground ginger
•2 garlic cloves, minced
•1/2 medium onion, sliced
•1/2 cup mushrooms, sliced
•1/2 cup of carrots, sliced
•1/2 cup of sugar snap peas, halved
•1 pound of chicken breast, sliced
•Chopped scallions for garnish
•This Cooking Therapy recipe printed out twice
Decide who will be person 1 and person 2. (Do not read ahead this recipe) Person 2 will read directions to Person 1 for first two steps. Then you will switch and Person 2 will be blindfolded and Person 1 will read recipe. When you are blindfolded you are NOT allowed to say anything other than ask questions about recipe. You must listen and TRUST that your partner will tell you exactly what you need to know and hear in order to successful complete this recipe.
Step 1: Blindfold Person 1. They will then mix sauces in separate bowl, and set aside.
Step 2: Person 1 blindfolded will carefully mince garlic. Once done heat oil over medium-high heat. Add ginger and garlic cloves, stir until fragrant. Remove from heat.
Step 3: Blindfold Person 2: Carefully slice onions and sugar snap peas. Once done, they will add chicken to warm pan, cook until no longer pink (3 to 4 minutes). Add onions, mushrooms, carrots and sugar snap peas. Stir fry until vegetables are tender.
Step 4: Blindfolded Person 2: Add the cooked egg noodles. Toss in sauce and cook for another three minutes.
Step 5: Remove blindfold, both garnish with scallions and enjoy what you made together!
Bottom Line: How does this improve trust? You had to trust your partner completely while blindfolded. This cooking therapy exercise is part of the process to refill your trust bucket. While making this together you had to rely on each other in a totally different way. You had to openly trust them. They were your eyes. You had to believe them when they guided them on where to place your knife. You had to be open and believe that they knew what they were doing and would get you to where you needed to go. This is a HUGE step in the right direction when it comes to refilling your trust bucket. Way to go!