Not fighting fair? That’s because you don’t have fighting rules in place. Without these rules you will continue to hit below the belt, try to hurt the other person on purpose. And let’s be honest. That’s not getting you anywhere.
Fighting rules keep fights fair, bottom line. They also keep you both accountable and help you get to the resolution faster.
And, when you resolve fights faster you are less likely to continue having the same fight over and over and over.
All good stuff here.
So I know you are thinking, how do I come up with these fighting rules? Just follow my cooking therapy recipe I’ve supplied for you below and you can come up with while making my Stop Screaming Salad!
My husband and I both have fighting rules in place that we’ve had and used successfully for years. I am living proof that these rules work, as I am still married ;)
Some of our rules are:
1. Never go to bed angry
3. Resolve the fight within 24 hours
These work for us, feel free to use them as a guide as you create your own rules. Try to come up with at least 5 that will keep you from being hurtful on purpose. The goal of these rules is to keep you from hurting the other person and solving the fight sooner than later. Arguments especially when they happen over and over stop being about a specific reason and become about winning the argument. That’s never helpful. These rules should keep you both calm (as possible) and focused on the argument at hand.
Stop Screaming Salad